Archive for August 28th, 2007

“I can do this myself, you know.”

“I know, Hon. Here, you dry your face while I clean your glasses.” If I keep talking he forgets he’s upset.

This is one of the most heart wrenching things for me to do each day. I dart to the bedroom when I hear him stir. Usually I offer to bring a coffee and the paper so we can spend a couple minutes together before the dreaded daily routine.

Once he is dressed, I go to the main bath to wait for him to come down the hall. Timing is everything – I have the water running before hand so it’s warm and the soap in the facecloth. Now he kind of slows at the doorway because he knows I’ll be waiting.

How I approach it is by saying if he washes his eye brows and face well, then his eyeglasses will not get marked as quickly during the day. It is a passable explanation but he feels badly.

Don’t have the heart to tell him he does not wash his face if I don’t offer the face cloth. I’ve given up on his tooth brushing upon waking – I wait til he eats and then we both go and brush.

If anyone has any suggestions to make this easier, I’d be grateful and not offended.

Through all the past years, I look at my/our life and am grateful that I still have -
a husband who loves me and is home with me

a mortgage free home

a paid for car

a pantry full of food

a library room full of books

a family of 2 sons – happy and successful

a lovely daughter-in-law (oh, like the sound of that:)

a wonderful group of friends and supporters

a medical/dental team -bar none – wonderful to both of us

a healthy body and my Man, also

a garden, quail, flowers, pool, hummers and lots of others

a cranky ache or pain here or there so I “keep real”

a fraternity of bloggers for whom I have great love and respect!

I could go on and on but you make your own list if I haven’t put you to sleep with mine:)