26th January
2008
“You know, you really should get out. You know. It’s not much of a life for you cooped up here.”
Stared at my friend in reply – I never know what to say when I’m shocked. Maybe it’s better that I say nothing. She was suggesting dates or whatever you call it at nearly 63 years of age.
Inside I was furious – Seems I remember for better or worse, in sickness and health – - -
Guess that’s why I keep my heart pretty close and don’t reveal much to friends. We skim the surface. Life is way more difficult than she or others know. This blog has been good for the soul.
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Jean, I suspect she meant well. It could be that she meant just getting away from the stress and not actually seeing another man. I hope not – that would be crass!
Unbelievable…truly. Sometimes people don’t know what to say, and they end up saying something ridiculous…
You are making God smile… and me too! You take your commitment seriously!!! You are not alone, you have a whole group of women who know you! You are a blessing to me!
Love,
Angie xoxo
I hope she didn’t suggest “dating” – that’s awful. Getting out is good, though, and you’ve been doing your best.
If I hadn’t had a similar experience.
I used to spend every Sun. with my elderly grandmother, taking her out or just spending the day with her in her a.l. apt. One day a coworker said to me, “…but you don’t have to do this. Your family pays people to take care of your grandmother.” All I could say was “You can’t pay someone to love you. You can’t pay someone to be family.”
Some people don’t get it. I don’t get them.
But do take care of the caretaker. Your guy needs you to take care of yourself too.