Archive for January 30th, 2008

Take what I can get and hold each moment close – today was very good. Of course, this is all relative.

Told him to grab the cutlery and he got the correct “two of everything”, set 2 glasses on the table – what’s interesting is that he knew where to find them. This hasn’t happened in a long while.

He read the paper – usually he fidgets with it scanning the front page for several minutes, sets it down and announces there’s nothing new – kind of sweet. Today he actually turned pages.

As he picked the cat up (yes, you read right) to carry him upstairs, I looked up at him and asked why he didn’t carry me upstairs instead of the cat. His old smile broke and he made a motion of locking his lips – we both cracked up.

Yeah, a good day.

I was thinking about my friend’s recommendation that I “get out, you know”. Yes, she did mean seeing other men which horrified and disgusted me at the same time.
I have no interest in “getting out”.

I observed a gentleman take up an affair with an employee at the nursing home where his wife was admitted with AD. They eventually moved in together but a bit later he was roughing her up. Actually, I couldn’t imagine his doing something like physical harm to her – but so the story goes.

They split and guess who is at a care giver’s meeting – she is! Guess what, her new man has AD! Now I would not wish any couple to go through this disease but thought it was interesting that in the end she becomes a care giver – and not a very loving one from her own admittance. Sad.

My sister and I left the meeting just heart sick for the man in her care.

I no longer attend meetings but may go someday again.