I was thinking about my friend’s recommendation that I “get out, you know”. Yes, she did mean seeing other men which horrified and disgusted me at the same time.
I have no interest in “getting out”.

I observed a gentleman take up an affair with an employee at the nursing home where his wife was admitted with AD. They eventually moved in together but a bit later he was roughing her up. Actually, I couldn’t imagine his doing something like physical harm to her – but so the story goes.

They split and guess who is at a care giver’s meeting – she is! Guess what, her new man has AD! Now I would not wish any couple to go through this disease but thought it was interesting that in the end she becomes a care giver – and not a very loving one from her own admittance. Sad.

My sister and I left the meeting just heart sick for the man in her care.

I no longer attend meetings but may go someday again.