Last night’s BBQ was terrific, sharing good food and friends. S&R are a great support for us.
They stayed over night and we had breakfast together. Wayne slept thru – I woke him to give him the choice of getting up or not. It was sure nice to have company til 11:30 am.
Learned today that his sister is having a breast biopsy tomorrow – I will not tell Wayne unless it’s positive. We will go from there if it is.
After thinking about our friend and her being terminally ill, feel I made the correct choice to tell him. Again, it was because of so many mutual friends and contacts. Not everyone agrees and that is their prerogative – in the end, I have to make the call that I feel is best for him, no one else.
We’ve had a lovely day, it’s 37 degrees, just about too hot to be out long. When I say, “Thank God for air,” it is said reverently.
Hope you all had a great weekend.
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Jean–it is a tough call whether to tell someone who is suffering about another’s dire situation.
When my mother-in-law died, we went to see my husband’s brother. He was seriously ill with MS, and his wife told us NOT to mention that his mother had died. I was shocked–but had to respect her wishes. When my brother-in-law died, very soon after, it was a relief–partly because I felt so bad having to deceive him.
So, it’s a tough call.
Hi Donna, I told Wayne only b/c we have so many mutuals.In his sister’s case, if it’s CA. I probably will ask for advice depending on diagnosis.
In your BIL’s case, it must have been difficult to not “slip”.
As our MD said, no right or wrong.
Thanks for your input.
I cannot imagine NOT telling someone that his mother had died, no matter what he is faced with. In mr. kenju’s family, one of his favorite uncles had lung cancer. His wife decided not to tell him it was CA, although we thought he already knew (or suspected). It was hard to skirt around it in conversation. I always think that the truth is best, no matter what, but I could be wrong.
The truth always wins:) So glad that you had a good time and hope there will be many more good days ahead.
Ah, yes, thank God for air.
You have many tough decisions with your husband, and you do what you have to do. I’m sure there are many differing opinions, but you have to do what you think is right. Tough calls.
Glad you were able to enjoy a bit of social time. It really lifts the spirits, doesn’t it? I think you are wise to keep the news from Wayne unless it is negative. No sense worrying him for nothing.
Glad things are looking up and you are enjoying the summer.