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By: annie's eyes

annie's eyes — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 15:05:00 +0000

I am praying for a peaceful passing for your friend, and for loving answers for your heart which hurts. And I am sorry for your loss in not being able to share this with strong Wayne, the one who would help you both through your grief. There are losses on multiple levels and you could use a strong shoulder. Would either of your sons be able to come up and go with you? I think it would be appropriate to ask them. Or maybe Shirl would be feeling up to it. I would like to see you have some support too, through this. Much love and prayers, Annette

By: Changes in the wind

Changes in the wind — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 13:45:00 +0000

Hope your MD will be able to shed some light on the subject. If it were me, I don’t think I would go. Not only would it be a normal stress of attending a funeral of a friend but the added stress of knowing how to handle whatever may arise with a husband who may or may not be able to relate to the situation. It would be too much for me I am sure but you have shown amazing strength so you would have to answer for yourself.

By: Beverly

Beverly — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 02:07:00 +0000

Like the others, I think his MD can offer helpful thoughts, and then you can decide. If you never mention her again, would he bring it up? Could you deal with those who may not know about his diagnosis, but notice something is amiss?
I am so sorry about your friend. I know you are sad too.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 00:07:00 +0000

I guess it depends when the time comes. Even if you make plans today, they may not work out on “the day”. I’m not trying to discourage you. This has been my experienced with Hubby. We make plans and then he has an exacerbation or has a particularly tiring day and we have to cancel.
Hope things turn out for the best.
Hugs,
W

By: Grammie

Grammie — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 23:02:00 +0000

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend.

I wish that I had some wonderfully wise opinion about what you should do regarding the funeral...but, I really have no idea what would be best. I hope that your dr. gives you the information that you need to make your decision.

Take care,
xoxo

By: Eve

Eve — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 21:33:00 +0000

I would let him go, if you have someone who can help. We never know what is going on in their mind. Perhaps they understand more than we know on a deep level of thier soul but have no way to express it. There will be a time when this question will not even be asked. Maybe, you need to gather rosebuds where you can now.

But of course, his MD would be the best one to advise you. You will be in my prayers.

By: KGMom

KGMom — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 19:03:00 +0000

I think your MD will give you good advice.
I think you know what is likely to happen–there will be moments of confusion, and perhaps moments of recollection.
Maybe the best thing would be to do what you think YOU can handle. W will not know what he can handle.