Archive for August 29th, 2008

Decided I should wake him around 3pm – he can easily sleep much longer. There’s the worry of bed sores, not enough nutrition in a 24 hours period and it’s lonely.

A vicious thunderstorm was passing over so thought he may have heard it. No, so I woke him and said I’d bring coffee to bed while we watched a downpour of rain. He wasn’t enthusiastic but agreed. Returning from the kitchen, I find him rolled on his side, covers pulled high.

“Don’t you want to get up, Hon?”

“No, there’s nothing to do for me. Why would I get up?”

I offered to take him for supper or go for a walk (forgot the storm and he laughed about a walk), we could go downstairs and exercise on the machines or do weights. Don’t you want to do anything?

He didn’t. I think he is just between stages and knows there’s not much to get up for – he reads 2 or 3 pages and goes to another book, then 2 or 3 and back to the first. It must be so sad if he does realize – I actually thought we had passed that stage.

It is now 6:55pm – we went to bed at 11pm last night.

Any suggestions?

Update: I just got him up now. 7:54pm

Yesterday, realized that I walk behind Wayne and just softly touch his back (just below his belt) to guide him in the correct direction. It’s inoffensive (I think) and hopefully not noticeable to others.

Even in our home as we go down the hall, he often needs help to get to the correct room.

We’ve always been “touchy, feely” so my putting a hand or a few fingers on his back doesn’t offend.

(Maybe this would work if your loved one needs prompting.)