26th February
2009
Since respite, I have to leave a large note for him if I’m going downstairs or shoveling the drive, etc.
This morn, I heard scraping in our drive and there was our dear neighbor, clearing snow. I dressed and ran out to help.
Very shortly I heard frantic banging on the window by the front door – he looked kind of panicked – as if caged and afraid. Ran in to comfort him and she finished. This respite has shaken him.
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I sense that his reactions have shaken you too, Jean. I’m sorry, but you needed the time so much, didn’t you?
It has made him more vulnerable, hasn’t it, but you needed and deserved the time….next time, you’ll know more how to prepare him.
It must be so hard for both of you – in different ways. Wow. Corgi’s right – next time you will prepare differently.
Jean–I echo others’ comments here. With AD, it is most critical to care for the person caring for the patient. You can burn out–as you well know.
I hope this experience doesn’t cause you to forego future respite times, should you need them.
I thought it might affect him, just didn’t know how. I know this must upset you and is hard on you as well. You so needed the rest. I didn’t realize he was that much taller than you. How you care for him physically is a miracle. You truly did need the respite…you can’t let your health break, then things would be harder and you don’t need that. Praying for you…may His strength be yours.
This makes it a lot harder but you just need to think of it as a learning experience for you both………Like you have said this is uncharted waters. Am hoping it will ease up soon.
I’m going to ask the question that surely I’m not the only one asking……..was your time of Respite worth it? I hope the answer is yes and the next time will be easier for both of you. ((HUGS)) and much prayer coming from my direction.