Archive for July 12th, 2009

Doc asked about the code we use.

Years ago, maybe 5, I knew little about AD except I’d heard people (may) forget their family eventually. As I learned more about AD, I realized how gradual (relatively speaking) it seems the decline is.

Maybe if I think of and tell him about an identifying “something” he’ll know it’s me even when he can no longer communicate it. That was the real reason, if he lost his ability to communicate, I could code and he’d know it me.

Little did I realize that I’d be using it “so soon” in our journey.

To “cover the real reason”, I told him we would develop this special code so if either one of us has surgery, we could do our code and other would know we were there. It sounds so yonky that pondered doing it but it saved the day several times.

It is a short, physical code and we’ve done it thousands of times over the past years to “instill”  it deep in our souls and senses. Believe that is why he knows it’s me, he doesn’t really remember I am coding but it’s a familiar gesture so to speak.

I hope everyone having a member with AD will think about this. Not sure how long it will “work” but I will always greet him with this code even if it seems futile.

To me it is similar to people ready to pass on, they hear and feel us, may not be able to communicate but know our touch. That is my hope.