23rd November
2009
Wayne was admitted to care on November 6th – I guess we’re at base camp in our journey before going on to the summit.
I’m sorry I haven’t been able to write, it’s just too painful for me. He is in one of the best facilities available in the area. Staff is terrific, facility is new, private room with his own bathroom. Took his TV/entertainment unit in but he doesn’t use it – will update more regularly, I hope.
Dear Jean, I am so sorry. I know how excruciatingly hard for you W’s placement must have been. But I think you did the right thing. Caring for a late-stage AD patient is not a one-person job. You needed help to avoid risking your own health any further. I know W will adjust and be fine, and I know that you will advocate for him in every way that he needs. Take good care, and I am praying for you both.
Love, Laura
Oh Jean, my heart hurts for you tonight. Another war of head vs. heart, eh? How is Buddy handling all this?
Holding you in my prayers,
Myra
Jean, I am so sorry this day has come…you have done everything possible to keep W home as long as possible but you also need to take care of yourself in order to be there for him. Holding you up in my prayers as well.
Jean–yes, this cruel disease has robbed you of this most precious time of life with Wayne.
You have done all you can–in fact, you have done so much more than most people would. And it sounds as though you have access to quality care.
I pray that this part of the journey will bring you comfort, bit by bit. I pray that there will be people there to support you as you have supported Wayne.
Prayers all the time for you, my dear.
That must be so very hard for you both. Thinking of you.
Write when you need to, when it’s good for you. This must be so hard for you and I’m so sorry.
He is so blessed to have you. Not many would have had your strength.
Hugs,
SMB
Dear Jean,
I’m trying to find the right words to say … I am so sorry you’re going through this, words feel so inadequate. You are such a devoted and loving wife to Wayne, I can only imagine the pain you are going through.
I’m so glad you’ve found a facility for Wayne that you feel comfortable with…..Take care of yourself…
Please know that you and Wayne are in my thoughts and prayers..
Love,
Dolores
I’m so sorry and I know there are no words that can comfort you right now. No amount of preparation could soften this blow but time will make things easier. You’ve done the best you could and gone above and beyond and deep down Wayne knows this too. Take care of yourself and any time you’re ready to make that trip to the big state of Texas, you’re always welcome and we’ve got a nice place for you to heal.
HUGS
Argh I feel like I’ve been punched in the stomach. I can only imagine how you feel. Thinking of you with love and hurt,
Judy
Dear Jean, you are most loved here–most especially by me. I realize that blogging has been a good outlet but it falls so short in times like these. I would be over at your house with a meal, or you and I would be walking through Buthchart Gardens talking together. I know Wayne is well cared for and he has the most amazing wife. Love is a strong cord through the worst of trials. Still, such pain.
Midlife Slices is in Texas too, so I hope you make the trip one day–we’d love to see you.
I have had you on my heart and continue to keep you in my prayers. Love and hugs, Annette
You and he have fought a good fight and will continue to….just on different ground. Stay strong and be kind to yourself and never forget the love the two of you share. For me personally I just want to say thank you for sharing the good times and the bad times with us, for such is life, and you have allowed us to be part of yours.
Jean, I did not realize you had turned this direction. My heart is overflowing with care and concern. Bless both of your hearts.
I can add very few words to what the others have said. I echo all of them. My heart is full for you. Knew something was going on and knew from different things that you had written that this was coming soon. You are in my prayers and thoughts. Keep us posted. Seems like a lot of people who don’t know you, do love you and Wayne. Praying as always…blessings..hugs and love. Mary Lou
I’m so sorry, Jean. I guess we knew it was inevitable, but that doesn’t make it easier. My love and prayers for you.
P.S. How is his cat?
I’m so sorry that Wayne has come to this stage and having been in the same position, I really feel for you as you make adjustments in your life. God bless always.
You have made a difficult decision yet there are people who do not understand how taxing it is to care for someone with dementia 24-7. You will still be spending quality time with him and certainly haven’t abandoned him. Take care.
Oh Jean, life sucks! I am sorry to hear this news. Write when you can. I do understand your pain. Hubby has turned a corner too. He has no energy at all any more. And watching other couples go about their daily routine, out to dinner, away on holiday, makes me feel cheated. I can imagine you feeling the same.
Sending you love and hugs. You and Wayne are in my thoughts and prayers as we stumble along on this frightful journey.
Well, when we hadn’t heard from you I suspected this was happening. I am so sorry – without words too. Without any answers either. Some times we have to go by faith instead of sight. It’s going to be a tough journey – I sure hope you have some support. Prayers and hugs being sent your way.
It was coming, I think that we all sensed it from your recent posts.
It’s heartwrenching for you, that’s for sure. So sad for your both, but, you fought that dreaded disease as long as possible. You’ll still be there for him. Thank God and Canada, that you have such a marvelous facility that will give him such good care. Caring staff is an added blessing. We are all feeling this along with you Jean, know that, please.
I’m so sorry I’m late in responding to your posts. I, too, am so sorry that you have come to your point in your journey. I do pray for peace for Wayne and for you and your boys and even Buddy.
I’ve just today read this post. I think you did the right thing. Did he realize where he was going? I would have to sedate my DH to get him to a facility of any kind. You and Wayne are in my thoughts and prayers. Thanks for letting us go along with you on this journey.