It always touches me when a person says, “So how’s Wayne doing?”
We both know he will never “heal or get better” but the mere fact he has a name and is remembered by name just makes my heart swell with joy and thanksgiving.
Some people have never met Wayne but he’s still “one of us” – that is so wonderful.
Usually I’m OK talking about him and his condition but the other day after inquiring about Wayne, the person asked how long we have been married.
I couldn’t talk at first and then croaked out 48 years before succumbing to tears which overflowed.
I felt sorrier for her than for me as she felt badly but after regaining my composure, assured her it was a wonderful question:)
This applies also to families suffering illness of a loved one – we tend to shy away from asking but it’s important that person is remembered in conversation – however difficult at the time.